Start Over Again

Start Over Again

People whose lives have been shaped
by history—and it is always tragic—
do not want to talk about it,
would rather dance, give parties
on thrift-shop china. You feel
wonderful in their homes,
two leaky rooms, nests
they stowed inside their hearts
on the road into exile.
They know how to fix potato peelings
and apple cores so you smack your lips.
The words start over again
hold no terror for them.
Obediently they rise
and go with only a rucksack
or tote bag. If they weep,
it’s when you’re not looking.
To tame their nightmares, they choose
the most dazzling occupations,
swallow the flames in the sunset sky,
jump through burning hoops
in their elegant tiger suits.
Cover your eyes: there’s one
walking on a thread
thirty feet above us—
shivering points of light
leap across her body,
and she works without a net.

Lisel Mueller, “Virtuosi” from Alive Together: New and Selected Poems. Copyright © 1996 by Lisel Mueller. 

Every day comes complete with 86400 seconds, each one a tiny opportunity to remake ourselves. We can start over again at any time, take the mismatched threads of our lives and weave them into something new. Survivors learn the hard way how everything can be lost in an instant. Jump at every opportunity to live a good life, savour it down to the last scrap.  Why wait?

Draw a Larger Circle

Dr. Pauli Murray, "I intend to destroy segregation by positive and embracing methods. When my brothers try to draw a circle to exclude me, I shall draw a larger circle to include them." An American Credo

I intend to do my part through the power of persuasion, by spiritual resistance, by the power of my pen, and by inviting the violence upon my own body. For what is life itself without the freedom to walk proudly before God and man and to glorify creation through the genius of self-expression? I intend to destroy segregation by positive and embracing methods. When my brothers try to draw a circle to exclude me, I shall draw a larger circle to include them. Where they speak out for the privileges of a puny group, I shall shout for the rights of all mankind. I shall neither supplicate, threaten, nor cajole my country or her people. With humility but with pride I shall offer one small life, whether in foxhole or in wheatfield, for whatever it is worth, to fulfill the prophecy that all men are created equal.

Dr. Pauli Murray, An American Credo

Born in 1910 Dr. Pauli Murray outgrew every box that tried to contain her. In 1945 shortly after graduating from Howard Law School she wrote, “I will resist every attempt to categorize me, to place me in some caste, or to assign me to some segregated pigeonhole.” And she did resist all attempts to keep her confined by colour or gender, labels like Woman, Black, Native, White, Lesbian, would not stop her from earning degrees at Hunter College, Howard University, the University of California at Berkeley, Yale, and the General Theological Seminary, or from becoming the first black woman to be ordained an Episcopal priest at age 63.

Dr. Murray’s legal groundwork laid the foundation for ending discrimination on the basis of gender. In 1940 she was arrested in Virginia for refusing to move to the ‘coloured’ seats at the back of the bus, fifteen years before Rosa Parks made the action famous. Inspired by Christ and Gandhi she introduced non-violent protest to the Black civil rights movement ten years before Martin Luther King, later mentoring him while challenging the movement for how it excluded women from positions of power or leadership. A lifelong friend of Eleanor Roosevelt, openly gay, and extraordinarily gifted why has Dr. Pauli Murray been overlooked in history books and common knowledge? There are no good answers.

The very premise of citizenship, it’s bedrock and foundation is that all are created equal, sadly a truth only matters if we act as though it does. How can we change ourselves and be better citizens? Start with learning the stories of leaders like Dr. Pauli Murray, tell them to your children and your children’s children.  Widen your circles to include others. Expand your understanding with diverse voices. Offer up the small stone of your life to the vision of a just, equitable, and compassionate world.

Citizenship is not a small circle, it is bigger than personal freedom, large enough to contain the world. Refuse any definition of citizenship that does not include everyone, there is no ‘us’ or ‘them’, there is only us.

We can’t leave this work to a brave few like Dr. Pauli Murray, it is up to each of us to look at who isn’t represented and extend a welcome. Have the presence of mind to ask one of the most important questions any citizen can: Who is not invited?

This question is the basis of inclusion, diversity, and real democracy. Start asking at every gathering and meeting, in board rooms and class rooms and on our streets: who is not invited, who was not included, what faces and stories were left out or overlooked?

Thing is, the space outside the circle was big enough for everyone all along. Remember when we were kids and the teacher would get us to take two giant steps back so everyone could fit? All we need to do to make a more inclusive world is take a couple steps back and draw a larger circle.

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Make a Bigger Pie

Pie Making Party, Community Change, Make a Bigger Pie

We’ve changed the way we think of ourselves as citizens. We don’t think of ourselves as citizens in the old sense of being small parts of something larger and infinitely more important to which we have serious responsibilities. We do still think of ourselves as citizens in the sense of being beneficiaries – we’re actually conscious of our rights as American citizens and the nation’s responsibilities to us and ensuring we get our share of the American pie. We think of ourselves now as eaters of the pie instead of makers of the pie. So who makes the pie?…Something has happened where we’ve decided on a personal level that it’s all right to abdicate our individual responsibility to the common good and let government worry about the common good while we all go about our individual self-interested business and struggle to gratify our various appetites.

David Foster Wallace, The Pale King

The more individuals behave like businesses, focusing on the needs and wants of the bottom line, the more competitive and consumerist we become. Citizens get lazy and feel entitled to governance but no longer choose to be responsible for it’s daily actions. No one is willing to make the pie (let alone share it) but everyone wants to assert their claim on a bigger, and bigger slice. 

What happens when we want the benefits of democracy without the risks of citizenship? Citizens stop helping out and start complaining, focusing on problems instead of solutions while becoming ever more disenchanted, waiting for ‘someone to DO something’ already. We start seeking a target to blame for the way things are without wanting to look in the mirror and face the truth: that someone is us. 

How can we save ourselves, our governments, and systems from narcissism and self-indulgence? We could start making the pie. Let’s turn the leftovers of our lives and the messes we’ve inherited in stone soup and jumbleberry pies. Civic engagement is served as well (or better!) by a community pie party as anything else. Maybe it is a silly oversimplification to think that we would all be bettered for gathering up after a day of braving thorns and harvesting berries so we can offer up a slice of goodness to each other with work stained hands – but this small sweet token of home and comfort could be the thing we’ve been truly hungry for all along. 

Why beg for crumbs when we can make a bigger pie?